Glass Houses

You know, I often wonder if people really think they can say things about others without someone getting hurt? I wonder if they even care. Believe me, I have been guilty of this in the past and have regretted many things that have popped out of my mouth. But over the last 8 months or so, I have learned that really the only reason someone would say mean, hurtful, and untrue things about another person is because of lack of self-esteem or pure jealousy or frankly just stupidity. Is my family perfect? No, they are not. Is my family people that you should avoid? I don't think so. If you think my daughter or my son or my husband or myself, for that matter, are people that are bad influences, you know what, I think it would be best that you do stay away. I would hate to corrupt your perfect, never-do-anything-wrong, faultless family. And, just so we are clear here, if given the opportunity, I will confront you on this - consider this fair warning to come up with a really good story. The funny thing is, the things I heard that came from your mouth startle me in many ways, but not more than the fact that you and your family are far from perfect. But...whatever, you keep yours to yourself and I will keep mine far, far away from you. A bad influence -- LOL -- I cannot even believe that is what you think.

2010 Handbook

A friend of mine had this posted, I thought it was pretty good and thought I would put it in my blog so I can see it occasionally and work on those things that I need to (unfortunately for me, I probably need to work on better than half of these!) Being a better person in 2010 is going to take a lot of work!

Health:
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants.
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did in 2009.
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minute walk daily. And while you walk, smile.

Personality:
11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts about things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't overdo. Keep within your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner about his/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class, but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...

Society:
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything..
28.. Spend time w/people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day.
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.

Life:
32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. God heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change...
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come.
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank God for it.
39. Your inner most is always happy. So, be happy.

Last but not the least:
40. Please Forward this to everyone you care about.

Hello 2010

As I look back on 2009 my first thought is thank heavens it is a new year. The last half of the year has been the most emotionally draining time of my life. There indeed were some wonderful, good times but they were often overshadowed by other things. Let's just say that 2010 certainly has a low spot to start from. I might say how could it be any worse...but, no thank you. I will not tempt Karma like that and give her the opportunity to come in.

I have an aunt who on Facebook declared that she was going to meet someone new this year...herself. What a wonderful concept. I think we could all stand to get to know ourselves just a bit better.

I was happy to see 2009 go; even though it was a really rough year, I know that I have grown from it. So...Hello 2010! Let the fun begin!

Addendum:

I had someone send me an E-mail about my last post...this is what they said --

"You wrote on your blog recently a question relating to strength of body or strength of mind and whether you had to have one to have the other. Speaking from my own experiences, the answer I have learned is you can’t have one without the other. Eventually, something will come along and hit the weaker of the two and you just won’t be able to handle it if you’re not strong and things will crumble all around you. However, the real strength in someone comes not from being able to endure the hit, but being able to pick up the pieces and move on afterward, not throwing in the towel, and hopefully with more wisdom than before. And that DOES make you stronger. Even if it doesn’t always feel that way."


I thought it was next to perfect and thought I would share.

Strength

I told someone the other day that I felt they were very strong; I actually said that this person was a very strong woman. She replied as to how she indeed was not strong. This got me thinking about strength. How strong do we have to be to get through things? Is it true that our Heavenly Father will not give us something that we cannot handle? When we feel like we cannot go one more step, is it the physical strength or the mental strength that pulls us through? How much physical abuse can one take before their body breaks? How much mental abuse can one take? Do you have to be strong physically to be strong mentally? Vice versa? Can one obtain physical strength? What about mentally? Can one learn to be stronger? Do our situations make us stronger or does our strength make our situations harder? When we finally throw in the towel and say that we cannot go any further, is this a sign of weakness or is it a testament of our strength?

People must look at strength differently. I have been told how strong I am; it makes me wonder, really, how well people know me. Does being strong willed constitute as strength? I don't think so. I think one has to find that inner strength though, that thing that really pushes us. You know, we have all heard of the mother who could lift a car off her toddler to save his life...outer strength. But, somewhere, deep inside, she had to know that she had to do it, she had to have the mind over matter. She could not for one instant second guess herself. She had to know she could and not even think about it. So, even though she had the outer strength to lift the car, she had the inner strength, or the mental strength if you will, to accomplish the task.

I have never been asked to lift a car off my child (thank heavens) but it seems like some of the things I have done on a mental capacity almost equals to that outer strength. I think I have failed more than I have succeeded. Physical strength can be observed -- look at all the wrestlers and the weightlifters, obviously you can see the outer, physical strength. But the inner, mental strength is subjective. Are we given tests to make us stronger or are we stronger because of our tests? Is not having strength, mental strength, a sign of weakness? You might think you know how strong a person is, but do you? Do you even really know how strong you are?